J'ai bien aimé cette idée, de "on fait un retour arrière" en cas de conflit...
C'est de Mona Barbera, ici:http://www.monabarbera.com/relationship_advice_DoOver.html
2. Request - don't demand - a do-over.
3. Don't get mad or impatient if your partner isn't ready to do it.
4. If your partner agrees, start at whatever beginning you both agree on. Don't be surprised if your partner thinks the problem started earlier than you thought.
5. Respond to your partner's comments differently than you did before. Try to be curious, calm, connected, truthful, light-hearted, and compassionate. Try not to be attacking, argumentative, blaming, convinced, or moralistic.